Making requests isn’t a simple act for everyone, especially when you approach the request knowing that you are over-stretching certain boundaries. Use this worksheet with a partner, taking turns. This will prepare you for difficult conversations and show you angles that you may have otherwise missed.
Directions:
Check no more than five behaviors that are typical of the person you plan on making the request of - You will then give this list to your partner, who will use those behaviors in the improvised role-play.
Behaviors:
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Makes demands |
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Doesn’t say a word |
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Uses put-downs |
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Questions my feelings |
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Denigrates my concerns |
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Never asks questions |
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Does not listen |
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Threatens |
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Interrupts frequently |
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Is judgmental |
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Focus is primarily on his or her concerns |
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Raises his or her voice |
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Gets up and walks around |
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Makes me defend my position |
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Questions why my position is even an issue |
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By role-playing these conversations you’ll have a leg up in positioning, using silence, controlling the conversation, and ensuring that your point is made in the fashion and tone that give you the best possible chance.