Are you a Controller? Then consider these steps.

  • Observe whether your need for control is shutting down the value and participation of others.
  • Change one basic behavior – communicate more empathetically.
  • Find the emotion that drives your behavior, do you need attention – or possibly fear pain?
  • Deconstruct the often incorrect illusion that your control is necessary.

Are you a Fake?Then consider these steps.

  • Own the truth. Youmust be able to face reality without looking for another angle.
  • Actively seek out opportunities to confront responsibilities.
  • Accept yourself by doing activities that reinforce your abilities and values.
  • You are not an imposter in your own life.You reached this place and time because of what you have accomplished thus far.Recognize that others are“feeling their way” in life, too.

Are you an Attention Seeker?Then consider these steps.

  • Take your necessary doses of attention on in individual basis.
  • Ask colleagues if they have time rather than formulating ways to gain notice.
  • Resist the temptation to whine and complain when you don’t feel attended to.

Are you a Prisoner? Then consider these steps.

  • Isolate the feeling and find the emotional triggers.What is happening when you begin to have these feelings?Ask yourself at that moment whether it is rational or if you are just playing out a routine with yourself.
  • Tell someone about your fear.This will create distance between yourself and the feeling.
  • Understand that fear need not be compressed into an emotional pit. You can free yourself.

Are you a Worrier?Then consider these steps.

  • Talk with someone, get fears off your chest.
  • Embrace the fear as a challenge; denying it will only embolden it.
  • Recognize the thought patterns that surround your worrying tendencies; then consciously change them.

Are you a Victim?Then consider these steps.

  • Listen to yourself – catch your inner voice before verbalizing your victim status.
  • Focus on solutions, there is precious little ever gained from assigning blame.
  • Try not to judge yourself so harshly; climb out of the marsh and accept your life.